Grief is…
Grief is… Losing both parents too early to lung disease and cancer. Feeling the heartbreak of that forever, even if there was a chance to say goodbye. Losing a dear friend suddenly, with no chance…
I’m Coming Out About My Rage
I didn’t think it would happen so publicly. Certainly not in front of hundreds of people. In my fantasy, the first time I’d come out about my complex PTSD rage episodes in vivid excruciating detail,…
Rebirth
Did you know that you can be born twice in this life? Once out of the sacred womb of your mother, as you burst kicking and screaming into the world as a tiny human, your…
I Took a Mental Health Break And Faced My Darkest Shadows
Earlier this summer, a bout of existential void hit me. Sweat from the heat mixed with sweat from my anxiety. I knew something was missing, but I couldn’t figure out what. Paired with it was…
I’m Breaking The Cycle of My Family’s Generational Trauma: Not Safe For Mom Group Podcast Interview
At three or four years old, I sat alone on the carpet in our Chinese immigrant home in San Francisco, never knowing when anyone would ever come home. Locked inside, lonely, feeling abandoned. My parents…
Five Lessons From Surviving My First Year As a Mom
As I held him in my arms while my insides were sewn back into place on the operating table, my son opened his little beady eyes one at a time. At last, we met face…
How to Powerfully Hold Space For Each Other
“Unfortunately, this will be our last performance for Carmen,” the conductor announced to our packed audience of over 1,000 people on March 10, 2020. We didn’t know how to react. Applause for the amazing opera…
How To Find A Coach Or Therapist That’s Right For You
Looking for a therapist or coach but don’t know where to start? I was there too. Back in 2016 I was struggling with anxiety, Imposter Syndrome, and building a new business after leaving my corporate…
Tips For Dealing With Grief – My Interview on “The Way We Connect” Podcast
The ones we love live on in us. Knowing this has helped me immensely through my grief. Are you on a grief journey too? There are often so many unanswered questions and it can be…
The Myth of The Hustle
What’s your relationship to the word “Hustle?” Me? I used to wear it like a badge of pride. “I’m a hustler!” I would proudly proclaim. And I worked through long ass hours living that coveted…